Online Dating Safety Tips For Men
Meeting women online has never been easier but it comes with a few risks. There are millions of people on dating sites. In fact, in 2016 PEW Research reported 15% of U.S. adults have used a dating site.
With so many people on dating sites, there will, of course, come people who want to take advantage of you. Take a few steps to protect yourself.
Odds are you won’t encounter anything bad and will be safe but to protect yourself from the off chance of getting burned, follow these 7 online dating safety tips so you can rest easy.
1. Use An Email Address Dedicated To Online Dating
One of the first online dating safety tips you must follow is to not use your personal email for anything related to online dating. Create a Gmail account which you will use only on dating sites.
For one thing, dating sites have been hacked in the past. Not only was Ashley Madison was hacked in 2015, but POF was targeted by hackers as well. The sole reason they were hacked was to steal the private information of their users.
People generally use a few email addresses and have them linked to everything; their banking and financial information, social media, Netflix account, Amazon, etc… People also usually share the same passwords across all these services so don’t use the same email address from your dating site as you do all these other services, and by all means, don’t use the same password.
And for goodness sake, don’t use your work email address for dating sites. Companies monitor your emails so don’t risk losing your job because you use your work email on OkCupid. You can create a Gmail account quickly so don’t risk it.
2. If The Woman Lied To You, Leave
When you meet someone for the first time and she doesn’t look like her picture, it’s time to go.
You can be somewhat polite and say “No thanks” or you can excuse yourself and head to the door, do what you gotta do.
Here’s the thing, she lied to you. Who knows what else she lied to you about. She disrespected you and deceived you with photos that looked nothing like her.
What else is she going to lie to you about? Don’t stick around to find out. Exit and don’t look back.
3. Keep Personal Information Off Your Dating Profile
Don’t use your full name, the name of the company you work for, your phone number, your Twitter, your Instagram, your FB, or anything else that can be used to track you down. Yes, men do this often. Like this guy:
There is no benefit to sharing this type of information on your dating profile. Most people like “checking in” to places on Facebook or post photos of themselves when they’re out and about. If you do this someone can look you up on Facebook and see you checked in to a specific bar or restaurant and know exactly where you are. You really want someone to have access to that information?
Keeping your personal information off your profile is one of the top online dating safety tips to protect your safety.
4. Don’t Use Pictures Of Your Kids On Your Dating Profile
Here’s a scary fact, Statistics Brain shares that 10% of sex offenders use a dating site to meet people. I can’t tell you how many times I see men post photos like this on their dating profile:
You don’t know who is looking at your dating profile photos. In fact, as early as 2007, Online Dating Magazine, the consumer watchdog publication for online daters, issued a warning to single parents about sex offenders who use dating sites.
Their number one tip; “Never post photos of your children in your profile or anywhere online.”
I went into more detail on a blog post I wrote here; 2 Reasons You Should Never Use Photos Of Your Kids On Dating Sites.
Keep your kids of your dating profile photos.
5. Be Mindful Of Your Photos
Use common sense with your photos. Don’t use photos showing things that can be looked up online. An address visibly showing in front of your house as an example.
One thing I see a lot is pictures of cars with the license plate clearly showing. First of all, you shouldn’t use pictures of your car, period! But hey, if you feel the need to do it, that’s your call. Seriously, don’t do it. No woman is going to see your car and think “Wow, I gotta meet this guy!”.
Some guys use pictures of their cars. Note how these guys show their license plates in their dating profile photos.
Odds are it’s not a problem but it’s better to be safe than sorry.
You shouldn’t use photos on your dating profile that you post on your social media accounts. The reason is that someone can use sites like TinEye or Google Images and use the photos you use on your dating site and search for you.
6. Keep Your Eyes Open For Scammers
There are millions of men on dating sites which unfortunately results in unscrupulous people trying to take advantage of them. The main culprit; money. Although rare, it does happen.
Scamming people on dating sites is so common that the FBI has issued warnings about online dating scams with their own online dating safety tips.
I just shake my head at anyone who gives someone money off a dating site. If someone asks you for money, just delete their messages and report them to your dating site. This could include requests for money for:
- Plane tickets.
- Medical emergencies.
- Cashing money orders for them.
- Request for your bank account information.
Don’t give money. EVER.
Here are a few things to keep an eye out for to avoid being caught by a scammer:
- Keep an eye out for inconsistencies in stories that women tell you.
- Beware of women who have 1 photo or no photo at all on their dating profile.
- If someone is unwilling to meet you, that’s a red flag. You’re on a dating site to meet women, not become a chat buddy.
- If someone is telling you how much they love you or miss hearing from you within 4 emails that’s another red flag.
- Consistent spelling/grammar errors in messages can be an indication of someone from another country trying to take advantage of you.
- Be wary of women contacting you who aren’t located near you.
- If they aren’t willing to give you a phone number to talk/text it’s another red flag.
In the end, go with your gut. Remember, NEVER give someone money off a dating site.
7. Meet In Public For Your First Date
When meeting someone for the first time it’s vital you pick a public location. Let one of your friends know you’re meeting someone for a date and where you’re meeting. Keep your phone in your pocket and make sure it’s fully charged.
It goes without saying; don’t invite someone over to your place for a first meeting. You’re strangers. And don’t go to her house either.
Avoid meeting somewhere remote too. Be safe. Be smart.
So there you have it, practical online dating safety tips for online dating:
- Use An Email Address Dedicated To Online Dating.
- If The Woman Lied To You, Leave.
- Keep Personal Information Off Your Dating Profile.
- Don’t Use Pictures Of Your Kids On Your Dating Profile.
- Be Mindful Of Your Photos.
- Keep Your Eyes Open For Scammers.
- Meet In Public For Your First Date.
It’s up to you to protect yourself. Follow the tips above and you can sleep easy.
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