How To Compliment A Girl On A Dating Site
Don’t know how to compliment a girl online? Choose at least 1 of the 7 things on this list to compliment women on and your message will stand out. Why? The majority of men put little effort into their messages.
Take this guy, most men compliment women on their looks.
First things first, stop telling women how “hot” they are in your messages. Stay away from physical compliments, especially with more attractive women. You’ll only lump yourself in with the masses (like the guy above) when you tell a woman she’s pretty. I covered this in another blog post, Why Men Must Avoid Physical Compliments With Women On Dating Sites.
On the other hand, when you focus on something she writes about herself it shows you’re interested in her beyond her physical appearance.
Here are 7 things you can compliment women on in her dating profile. Commenting on any of the choices below show a woman you took the time to read her profile. Women will notice because you’ve made more of an effort than 90% of the other guys giving you a HUGE advantage.
1. Her Social Conscience
Anyone who volunteers their time for anything (dog rescue, helping the elderly, big sister programs, etc..) is showing a selflessness you should comment on. When you recognize a woman’s kindness to others you’re showing you see her at a level much deeper than every other guy who just tells her she’s “hot”.
Tell her how better off your community is because of her kindness and giving nature. Your message will stand out.
2. Her Interests/Lifestyle Choices
As you read through a woman’s interests (music, books, hobbies, movies, etc…) take note of things you have in common. You can certainly compliment these common lifestyle choices you share. No false compliments here; it should be something you actually have in common.
Maybe she’s listed a book you’ve read. Compliment her taste and ask what she enjoyed about the book. Be sure to share your thoughts to show you’ve actually read the book. This is key; you must share your feelings towards whatever interest you ask about. If you comment on a movie, be sure to share how you felt about it. If you focus on a hobby she does, tell her what you enjoy about it.
Warning: Don’t’ just say “We have similar interests” in your message. It’s a meaningless comment most men write to women. Show you share the same interests by sharing specific details on whatever you comment on.
3. Her Career
When a woman shares she loves her career, you can compliment her on how great it is to see someone so devoted to their craft. It doesn’t matter what the career is, it’s the fact she is passionate about it which speaks volumes.
When you see a woman talk proudly about her job tell her how impressive it is to she has an impressive work ethic which you admire since it’s rare to find on profiles these days.
4. Her Positive Energy
When you see a woman’s profile that’s positive end-to-end, tell her how refreshing it is to see finally read a profile that made you feel good after you finished reading it. Point out how you’ve seen so many negative profiles where people say how “tired they are of games and drama” and how it’s a “breath of fresh air” to finally read a profile where someone has such positive energy. The positive vibes coming through her profile is infectious and she clearly has a good head on her shoulders.
5. Her Sense Of Humor
A woman will appreciate a guy who gets her sense of humor. When you find a profile that makes you laugh you should let her know how it put a smile on your face. When you compliment a woman on her sense of humor be sure to tell her what you found funny.
Don’t just say “You have a great sense of humor.” Point out what made you laugh. Women dig guys who actually “get” their sense of humor.
6. Her Sense Of Adventure
When a woman shares her passion for adventure with details tell her how energizing it is to see someone so full of life.
Note, this is also the one compliment you can reference a photo. For example, if a woman has a photo of herself skydiving tell her how incredibly brave she is to jump out an airplane and ask her about the experience.
Another example is if she’s a world traveler compliment her on her sense of adventure. Ask her what she loved about her most recent journey and where her next adventure will take her.
7. Her Talent
If a woman shares how she enjoys singing, playing an instrument, cooking, painting, or anything else that takes skill and talent go ahead and compliment her on it. Not everyone has the talent to sing or paint for example; I certainly can’t. Can you?
Compliment on her amazing gift and ask her questions about what she loves about it. It takes intelligence to play an instrument so recognizing someone for their “gifts” will show you have depth.
Some final notes; when you compliment a woman on anything don’t bring up your shortcomings. This will only highlight why she shouldn’t respond back. As an example, say you see a woman who went skydiving, you should compliment her on how adventurous she is but DON’T say how you’re terrified of jumping out of an airplane or it’s something you could never do.
That negates you from the outset. Believe me, a lot of men make this mistake. Be positive with your comments.
Whatever you compliment a woman on be sure it’s actually sincere. Women will know if you are just giving them lip service with false compliments.
Lastly, the best way to start a conversation with women online is to share a little information about yourself regarding whatever you compliment them on. If a woman shares she plays the piano you can compliment on her choice and ask her who her favorite musician is while sharing you play guitar and have been playing since you were a kid. Get it? Small things like this make a difference between getting your message answered or ignored.
Leave any comments below. Share your advice or tips on how to compliment a girl online. Would love to hear them.